I have received a ton of questions in regards to what I do about changing my diaper in public areas – such as malls, parks, etc. This post will hopefully clarify how I handle those situations and how not that noticeable it really is. There really isn’t that much difference. So, how I am going to approach this is name off some general public areas and tell you how I handle those for changing my diaper or having my diaper changed for that matter. I would also like to state to please be respectful of others around you – regardless of how normal myself or you may consider it – people can be offended and it is honestly not appropriate as an adult to just do it so everybody can see.
Mall: The mall is a place I visit often – I am a shopaholic. I have probably mastered changing at the mall. If I am by myself then I just go into a stall in one of the women’s public restrooms and change my diaper there. I just lean myself up against the stall wall for support as I pull the adult diaper up between my legs to change. Nothing fancy but I have probably mastered it so I can take off my wet diaper and change into a fresh one in probably under 3 minutes which to me is pretty good. If my diaper happens to be messy – well that is a more time consuming process where I have to break out my disposable wipes I carry with me in my purse. There really is no easy way to do it – I just sort of prop myself up against the wall or maneuver myself on the toilet and clean myself…graphic I know. Some nice malls have stalls where they are completely enclosed, meaning you can technically lay on the floor and nobody would know…if that is the case, bring a changing pad to lay on and then you can lay on the changing pad on the floor and change yourself. A lot easier if this is an option but it rarely is the case.
Park: I am a big outdoor type person so I love going to parks. Sometimes I actually sunbathe like I am on a beach in just a diaper and bikini top but that is usually only if I can find a semi-private area. The lure of sunbathing in a park in just a diaper is not as “appropriate” in my mind as it can be in a beach setting. But, anyways when I need to change in a place like a park it really depends on the park I am at. Some parks are really private and I will actually either change my diaper right there on my picnic blanket or towel or if Peter is there then he will do it for me. If its not that private then typically I try to find the park restrooms and just change my diaper there. I have to make sure I always bring my supplies because I always like to be prepared for the worst you could say…which believe me, it happens.
On The Road: I do like to travel when I get a chance which entails having my diaper changed in the car a lot of times on the side of the road. Usually, if I am just wet then we try to make it to store or something like that but I will say that when I poop my diaper then neither I or Peter can really bare it too long so Peter ends up changing me on the side of the road in the car. I don’t mind it too much, just make sure you have a blanket/towel/changing pad if you don’t want to get your seats messy.
Rest Stop: Rest stops can be a great place to change an adult diaper especially if you have someone that will change it for you. Many rest stops have family restrooms in which you can go into and have someone help you change your diaper. Peter and I usually go in there together and change our diapers if they have a family restroom with private sections in them. This is probably the easiest way. Some rest stops have private areas that you can go off to where nobody is around, look for these, and you can change your diaper there if you do not want to deal with a large crowd in the restrooms for some reason. Some rest stops can get busy so sometimes we opt to find a private area around the rest stop and change our diapers.
Beach: Changing an adult’s diaper on the beach is very similar to the park. Its just one of those things where it depends on how much privacy you have on whatever beach your at. Some beach areas have like nobody on it that we have been to in which case I just change my diaper right there on my beach towel. But, most beaches have at least some people on it – in which case I will be respectful and take a diaper out of my beach bag and walk up to a restroom or where ever I am staying and change my diaper there.
Changing an adult diaper in a public place is all about a moderation between your own comfort and respect. You have to respect the others around you and realize that even if you are comfortable with it, they most likely aren’t. So, please keep that in mind when you consider changing your diaper in public places. Changing a diaper is a must especially if you poop your diaper because serious rashes and discomfort can come from it so changing in a public place is inevitable. But, just keep in mind my experiences and be courteous to others and you will be fine with being comfortable wearing diapers out in public places without fear of having to change your diaper there. I recognize men can’t always just carry around a bag with a diaper in it like women have purses – all I can say to that is to either carry a backpack in certain situations or keep your diapers in your car – preferably in a trunk where it is typically cooler..
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Hi Adrian,
Good post as usual! I was curious what your strategy was for the disposal of the used diaper?
Personally, if I have to change in public, I usually put the used diaper in a 1-gallon Ziploc bag (I always carry a couple of bags in my changing kit), and take it with me. I have been known to throw them in the restroom’s trash receptacle, but only if it’s not poopy. I try to be respectful of others.
When I get home, I throw the used diaper in my own trash. If there’s a considerable amount of “solids” in the diaper (or it’s especially odiferous), I’ll usually “glove up” and remove the bulk of it in the toilet before I throw it away. Not the most glamorous of tasks, but I feel like it’s the responsible thing to do, and it keeps the trash from smelling to high-heaven. That can be especially critical if it’s just been emptied. After a whole week of “fermenting”, the trash bin can get really nasty. I’m sure my trash collectors unknowingly appreciate my diligence.
Eager to hear how you deal with the situation!
Thanks!
James
I have had my diapers changed many times in public. I too like the malls and the ladies room is ok to change as long as its clean. Some of the restrooms are kinda disqusting to use, so, laying on the floor would not be an option. My mom would help me since I just cant get my diaper on properly as I stand up and change. I could never do it properly. I have had many diaper changes in the car and in parking lots of stores and even a church parking lot a few times after sunday morning mass. I keep a diaper changing kit in the trunk of the car and ill carry a bag/backpack in the malls with supplies. If im messy and its not to far to home I have to sit in it till I get home then clean up. Thats my moms rule to punish me cause she says I mess cause im lazy which is not true but I cant argue with her about it.
beka
Beja why do u wear diapers are u incontinent or are u an abdl and ur mom accepts that and even changes ur diapers
Rest areas in Michigan have gone cheep and often the family room is locked. And then some of the newer ones only have half walls for the stalls so if you over 4-5 foot then u can see right in the stall and see the person in there doing there business. It really sucks.
One day I was in a close out store, needed to change. But when I went to the restroom I found that, in trying to stop shoplifting, all the stall doors had been removed and were wide open. There were two stalls and I went to the furthest one back. In the middle of changing someone stuck their head in and looked. They never said a word and waited for the other stall to be free. This was about 30 years ago when a diaper looked like a diaper and were more “crinkly” than those we have today.
I’ve never had the courage to go anywhere in a diaper and bikini top. I wish I did, I really do. Continent girls get to go similarly dressed all the time, why not me?
-Mia
Hey Adrian. Good post about changing in public. As a saying you gotta go you gotta go. The same would go for you gotta change you gotta change. I’ve never seen one of those family type restrooms before but they make since for easier changing if you’ve got some one willing to do so. If and when I’m diapered and out and need to change, I just find an open stall and do what needs to be done. I do have a no big deal $2 backpack that I got from a K-Mart closing and it works for my laptop, checkbook, diapers and wipes. Just whatever I plan on for a diaper day and want to have a few on hand when I’m out and have no trouble at. Have a nice day and it would be better if I didn’t have to work all night till 10pm. Those are never a fun day.
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Just tonight, i missed another dinner at a nice restaurant with my family, because i dont want to have to put up with a dirty diaper while out in public. Maybe everyone one on here is braver than me about changing in public places. Naturally i was never a people person, and when the day came that i had to start wearing diapers, it only helped me be more shy about going out. Yes i still go out, and hang out with friends, but not every week and yes they know i need diapers. As for family, it doesnt matter what they know, family is the most judgmental people i have ever met. Thank you for the great advice.
Good post, it prettymuch mirrors exactly what I do when I change in a public place.
As far as males and bags go, fortunately when I was in highschool satchel-style bookbags became really popular among the guys, so, I’ve been using that for some time.
You have guts I am quite shy and if my partner was incontinent, I would probably wait to change them to avoid embarrassment on my part, but im glad to see you that you feel none 🙂
good tips 😀 as usual
This is a little off topic, but maybe you could post the answer in a new article. How do you and peter do the sex thing? I recently had my first with my boyfriend and it was a disaster. I wound up going on him… Could you give me some tips so this doesnt happen again?
Greetings. Kellie, there’s lots of help on the web, but as embarrassing as it is, I would highly recommend bringing this up with whatever physician deals with the incontinence issue, as well as talking things over with ones significant other if this issue has not been worked out to ones satisfaction. A basic web search yielded a few links that may be relevant to your situation and will hopefully be of assistance. Much of what I located was merely duplicates of the following material, but these three should be a good starter. If you desire references to academic materials, research studies ETC, please feel free to notify me and I will compile a list for you. Nope, haven’t got a life right now, nor a job for that matter. Once again however, web advice is no substitute for what a doctor can provide, especially a urologist, gynecologist or urogynecologist. A few links are below for your perusal. Best of luck, hope things go well.
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/2517659/incontinence_and_a_fulfilling_sex_life.html?cat=41
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/1755082/is_urinary_incontinence_hurting_your.html
http://www.rosenmanmd.com/sexuality.htm
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Im a guy and was wondering if there’s a way to get changed in the ladies room by my gf or her accompany me to the boys room for a change I looked and I didnt really find much on the subject and really would like to know.
It never occurred to me that you would have to do this in a public spot. Thanks for taking the subject seriously.
How to prevent UTI when in a messy diaper, I’m a girl in diapers 24/7 and enjoy the feeling of full diapers on my button but worry about infections in my ginny and bladder; any ideas. I wear a tampon when I plan on an accident but I don’t always know when my poopys will show up and flood my whole bottom.
Very insightful post
I will start of by saying that I’m 22, male, and have to wear diapers after being in a nearly fatal car accident. Now I hope you have some way of knowing how to politely ask a stranger to help you in the event of changing in public. I’m usually at the gym, and it feels like torture going into the men’s locker room with an extremely messy diaper. Some of the guys can seem to tell that I wear them, but I can never seem to muster up the courage to ask them for some help, even if I give them say 5 bucks as a token of my appreciation. It’s one thing if I’m out in public needing a change, as my dad or uncle would go in and help me, but I am one who hates putting people in awkward positions, much less a person who I only saw maybe 5 minutes ago.
My mum usually changes me in the ladies bathroom (i can’t change my self) or in the back of the car. i am not embarrassed i have lived 18 years of my life like this.
I’m disabled and in a wheelchair, so diaper-changing in a public place–*any* public place–is a challenge. It used to be easier when I was younger–it was no problem to just plop down onto my knees from the wheelchair, lie on the restroom floor (provided that restroom is one of those where only one person can “go” at a time) and change my diaper.
To do that now, however, would mean indescribably excruciating pain in my knees, hips and ankles, especially when coming in contact with that hard floor. So what I often have to do instead is transfer to the toilet seat, take out a clean diaper, unfold it on my wheelchair seat, transfer back to the wheelchair seat, pull the diaper between my legs, tape, and go. The real trick is getting the diaper centered, which isn’t that easy. It’s probably just as well I can’t get on the floor anymore–I share the revulsion of others here toward restroom floors.
I have yet to find an adequate way to deal with poop, and I’ve been in diapers for twenty years. I often have to do it in a similar fashion to Adrian–I use the “hover over the toilet” method. Unfortunately, what often happens is that the stool ends up on the floor. (It’s not easy holding onto the handrail with one hand while trying to get a poopy diaper off with the other, without making a mess).
The problem is magnified if I happen to be wearing a dress, because I have to figure out some way to get that out of the way while I’m changing and cleaning myself up. I’ve tried rolling the dress up with limited success, since it more often than not comes unrolled.
Which brings me to a pet peeve of mine. Namely, that so many adult diapers resemble underwear these days–that is, you slip them on rather than tape them on. That works OK when I’m in a dress, but in pants, there’s no way I could get one of those on without taking my pants and shoes off. With my limited mobility, that’s easier said than done. Therefore, I always have trouble if I’m in a store and need an emergency spare diaper. I spent a rather exhausting half hour to 45 minutes trying to put one of those things on in a restroom recently. Now I remember to always bring a spare diaper with me, or else.
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I currently wear a diaper whenever possible, not for medical reasons but for comfort, convenience, adoidance of yucky public restrooms. Currently I’ve only been able to work up the nerve of leaving where I usually am for something more private such as a park restroom. I just can seem to get the confidence to change at the shopping mall or restaurant returning to my table after.
Is there any way I can build up the confidence needed to change pretty much wherever I am?