I am sure many of you have been wondering what is going on with the lack of posts from me lately – well I had/have a guest poster helping me out some while I dealt with a few things in my life. But, I will say Geoffrey has been doing a great job on the posts. Very impressed with his writing and great topics that I am sure have helped a lot of people. That is what we are all about here!
Anyways, I wanted to talk about something I think holds true for a lot of people. I think there is a little diaper lover or adult baby in everyone. Many people just don’t know it. Obviously, this community is made of up diaper lovers and adult babies but the general population looks on from the outside thinking how could a community such as us enjoy wearing diapers and acting like adult babies. Well, that is where I think most people nearly judge rather than look into their inner-self.
Deep down I think everyone enjoys that being taken care of feeling and that feeling of safety and dependence on somebody else. Many people that are new to wearing diapers I have heard countless times comment on the fact that they love just the safety and security of wearing a diaper – they can’t describe it but they just say they feel comfortable and secure. I think this feeling hits many people deep down and gets to the heart of that safe and dependent feeling that many people probably sub-consciously feel.
Most people merely judge wearing diapers as something only children and elderly people HAVE to do. But, they never re-examine the possibility of what it actually feels like or the practicality of what wearing a diaper brings. They merely choose to judge before thinking. But, when a person actually makes that leap of faith to try a diaper – they are pleasantly surprised of the rush of emotions it brings back. It might not “hit home” like it does for many of us but they do feel that sense of something safe, secure, and comforting. Truth be told I think there is a little diaper lover in everyone.
The key I believe in getting a significant other, friends, girlfriend, boyfriend, playmate, etc to try out a diaper and to understand what exactly the “fuss” is all about when it comes to diaper lovers is this:
- Don’t Come Across Like it is Just a Big Fetish – this can turn people away and make them feel like it is ALL sexual which for many its not sexual at all or is just a slight part of it.
- Let Them Take Baby Steps – Don’t make them go full force wearing all the time – just let them try it on their terms in a safe environment.
- Be Calm – I know it is all exciting if you get someone you know to try a diaper on and you finally get to experience it with someone else – but you can act excited but don’t go crazy as it can overwhelm the person. Just let them experience all the feelings that it comes with on their own.
In the end, MOST people who actually take that leap and try out what a diaper lover or adult baby is all about are pleasantly surprised in the innocence of it all and the comfort, security, and safety the feeling of wearing a diaper brings.
Also – lots of pictures coming – especially to the Premium Content Section – including wearing diapers in public photos and at the gym 😉
Much agree! Good post!
I agree with your sentiments. Welcome back, you were missed 🙂
For the premium section, I know your husband doesn’t like pictures, but it would be nice to see some tasteful couple shots. Married dl’s are rare and it is just special to see 🙂 I hope everything you had to deal with turned out ok!
Spargano
I let me girlfriend know first thing when we started dating to sort of remove any skeletons that could cause problems later. At first she thought it was weird but did not mind if it was something I liked and still loved me. Eventually she did not mind I if I was wearing one around her. Eventually we had a talk about fetishes and I learned about some of hers. We agreed to be supportive of each other and sent links to regarding each other’s fetish. Eventually I got some premium ones for her to try and to both of our surprised she loved them. She now wears them on her own and with me, changes me full time on the weekend, and even finds ways to include them and the role playing we do into our foreplay. All sexual things aside she is very supportive and also someone who I just love spending time with cause it can be as simple as playing video games to fancy date nights. The trust we had and the way we eased into everything made a huge impact on us.
I totally agree. Even I have some Adult Baby and some Diaper Lover in me.
I do too Jason. I can NOT be without a diaper on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I know that before I became incontinent I had a little bit of DL in me. It used to be a fetish but by fate and nerve damage by stenosis I have to wear heavy diapers almost 10 hours a day and then Depends underwear or Real-Fit other times. What is strange is that I have told my wife I like the security that I won’t wet the bed or ruin the furniture…my night-time wetting is heavy. However, the longer it goes on, the more I accept and like diapers. My wife is accepting and encourages me wearing. Overall, I am 24/7 and don’t mind too much because it is irreversible.
Take care,
Colin
Nice to hear from you again Adrian!
Personally, I have never gotten into the “Adult Baby” or “Little” thing. As for “Diaper Lover”, I’m not sure how I really feel about that. I have had to wear “protection” for nearly all of my life, though there are medications that have worked moderately well for me, with several side effects. Side effects that are in themselves potentially dangerous to your health and can affect your quality of life (stress, sex drive, blood pressure, liver issues, etc). The choice to deal with the leakage over polluting my body with potentially dangerous drugs that are also literally “mind altering” was and is easy for me. I have pretty much decided to not subject myself to more surgeries or be an experimentation subject for the big drug companies… I have chosen that diapers are the best way for me to manage my incontinence.
The fact is that I really don’t mind wearing a diaper. I can’t say that I “enjoy” a diaper but I often choose to wear a diaper when a Poise pad or pull-up would likely suffice. Does that make me a “Diaper Lover”? Honestly, I’m really not sure how I feel about it and the subject isn’t something I can openly discuss. I do know that unless there’s a proven drug that will help, one without nasty side effects, or a nearly guaranteed surgical solution, I will likely wear diapers for the rest of my life.
My husband has never shown any real interest in wearing a diaper. I have tried to get him to try one years ago, and he actually did wear one a few times, but wearing one is not his thing. He has changed me several times before, and I can say that I truly enjoy that. He also seems to enjoy seeing me in a diaper. Maybe that makes HIM a Diaper Lover…. Maybe that would make an interesting article Adrian!
@Ellyn, I’m sorry for your incontinence. I’m OAB plus leakage so I wear 24/7. That’s good your husband likes to see you in diapers, or doesn’t mind. Maybe he likes to baby you. My wife doesn’t or even cares to touch me, but accepts it, so at least she is accepting. Having any form of incontinience is not fun, but I do enjoy wearing diapers and they make the incontinience really not an issue so I’m lucky I can manage with them and be happy too!
I’ve never considered it a “fetish” per se. For me, it’s a just in case thing. Say, if I can’t make it to the toilet in a timely manner, I may wear diapers. If I’m on a road trip and I there’s no place to pull over to pee, I may wear diapers.
After giving Adrian’s subject a little more thought and reading Bambino’s post, I want to put this out there…
I don’t think I “like” to wear a diaper… After doing some gardening in south Texas (yes, it’s warm here today), and working pretty hard at it, wearing sweats, I realized that I was very damp. I had not wet the diaper too much, but at about 3PM, I had apparently perspired to the point where I was quite uncomfortable. I came in to change and the feeling of removing the wet diaper, cleaning up, then getting into a fresh one was that of “contentment” or maybe even delight… Thinking about my boys as babies, they would wet their diaper, get uncomfortable, likely get cranky to let me know they needed changing, then were as happy as could be after being changed. Does that make them “Diaper Lovers”? Of course not. When they were 2 years old, and able to communicate pretty well, they would let me know they were wet. After changing, they would go back to playing, again as happy as could be. Were they “Diaper Lovers”? Again, that’s silly. My boys were in night diapers until age 7 or so (due to bed wetting). In the morning, they would be glad to get out of their diaper and get cleaned up. They are both teens and have seen me diapered under my evening and night clothes all their life. As far as I know they have not had an “urge” to wear a diaper for any reason.
What is my point? I wear a diaper because I “need” to. I don’t like to be wet, so when I am, I change. I “like” getting into a fresh diaper! At night, I double diaper so I can sleep through the night and “like” the feeling of “security” that I get knowing I will be comfortable and not soil the bedding. When I go out and have the option of wearing a pad or pull-up, but opt for the Tena or Abena, I may be subconsciously thinking about the “security and confidence” that I gain with the full diaper. Does that make me a “Diaper Lover”? Instead, maybe my “security blanket” is a diaper. Instead of being insecure about my butt being too big (it’s not, I hope) or a gray hair (none so far) or do these shoes match my outfit (which they sometimes don’t), I’m usually insecure about a leak if I’m not wearing “enough” protection.
Maybe I’m emotionally “Diaper Dependent”…
Hey Ellyn. I agree with what you’re saying. It’s the same with me and diapers. I’m not an AB or DL.
Sorry Ellyn, I disagree, i’m a AB/DL, i’m a real big Diaper dependent.
@jason, ya I’ve never been an AB or have the interest either. Diapers don’t excite me anymore, however, they use to when I was younger. Maybe it was the softness. But I do enjoy them now when I have a nice fresh one on and even if I didn’t have my bladder issues I think I would still wear. I have worn since I was born and they truly are just like my underwear with perks. Does that make me a diaper lover who knows. Don’t care, I truly wish folks would look at them as another type of preferred underwear. Ok done rambling.:)
Hey Bambino. I agree. I don’t have any bladder issues to speak of. I just need something to relieve pressure when I need to pee. I haven’t worn diapers full-time since I was 2 yrs old.
I have to share an exception. I’m DL, but my wife has always felt uneasy about the whole issue. There have been a couple of times that she has felt it necessary to wear a diaper due to illness, but she says that she feels gross just wearing a fresh one. And from knowing her after over fourteen years of marriage, I doubt she’ll ever feel any different.
I know people who are like that. I’m something of a DL myself. My parents aren’t too keen on the idea of an adult wearing diapers. They believe that unless you’re confined to a wheelchair, in a coma, or otherwise unable to walk under your own power, you shouldn’t need to wear diapers, and thus shouldn’t be allowed to wear diapers.
It is our choice to wear them