Something you run into a surprising amount on ABDL websites is an interest in being diapered 24/7 – always diapered, in other words, apart from showers and changes.
For a lot of people it’s more of an erotic fantasy than anything else. For others it may be a fairly small and practical step, if they’re already partway diaper-dependent — in the long run, an incontinent person with no expectation that the incontinence will improve may find it greatly simplifying to rely on diapers all the time, instead of having a halfway system of diapers and trying to control bladder or bowel leakage.
Regardless of the motivation, the fact is: there are a lot of people out there who aren’t currently dependent on diapers (or other protection) 24/7, but who are at least thinking about making the shift.
For those people, here’s what you can expect, both the good and the bad. I’ll also leave the comments open to others who are diapered 24/7, and hopefully Adrian will chime in with her own experiences as well!
The Motivations – Reasons to Consider Full-Time Diapering
Why would anyone even want to do something like that? There are a couple reasons:
1. Practicality
For people with small bladders, mild incontinence, or just a plain old aversion to gross public toilets, being diapered is a simple alternative. It removes a need that, for most adults, is a concern several times a day: when and how to use the bathroom. For the full-time diaper wearer, that’s just not something that needs to be thought about anymore.
2. Accident Prevention
People with some but limited bladder or bowel control may prefer full-time diapering to trying to judge each day whether they’re going to have a “good day” or a “bad day” in terms of control. It’s usually not the first solution to mild incontinence, but after a while some people may get tired of the occasional embarrassing accident in their pants. Full-time diapering can be away to remove the faint but nagging feeling of worry that accompanies limited control or “short notice” bladders.
3. Mental Comfort
You don’t have to be an ABDL or “little” to find the presence of a diaper comforting. Many people simply find the sensation or the knowledge that they’re free to relieve themselves any time they need soothing. For someone already inclined toward that kind of comforting, being diapered 24/7 is a relaxing and healthy lifestyle change — think of it as something on the order of taking up yoga in a really serious, dedicated way. Not everyone’s that into it, but for a small section of the population it’s exactly what they need.
4. Sexual Fantasy
There’s no real clear line that could tell us what percentage of diaper-wearers are a “fetishist” and what percentage aren’t. But there’s no denying that, for some people, being diapered is hot as hell. That’s what gets them going, and that’s fine. For those people, switching from being diapered during sexual play to being diapered full time can be a way of “living the dream” and of incorporating their sexuality into their daily life.
5. Power Play (Dom/Sub) Relationships
In a small percentage of cases the decision to be diapered full time may come as part of a Dom/Sub relationship. This can cover a wide range of situations, from a mostly BDSM-themed couple where the diapers are simply one more prop (representing imprisonment and loss of control) to a more ABDL or “littles” relationship where a Mommy or Daddy decides that his/her “baby” needs diapers all the time. While these probably don’t represent a very large chunk of the diapered population, they’re certainly out there — and, done between consenting adults in a healthy relationship, that’s just fine.
What to Expect – The Good News
So what are all those people described above getting out of their full-time diapering? It can vary from person to person, but here are the main advantages to a fully diapered lifestyle:
1. No “Emergency” Moments
All of us, no matter how healthy our bladders are, have had a few of those legs-crossed, crotch-grabbing, oh-god-I’m-not-going-to-make-it moments.
Diaper wearers don’t. Leakage happens occasionally, especially when a diaper wearer is first learning the limits of his/her brand and style of diapering, which can make for some nervous moments when a diaper really needs a change and the wearer has to go, but by and large going diapered means relaxing and letting go long before things get to that unpleasantly urgent moment.
2. Avoiding Nasty Bathrooms
Some toilets are just gross! Diaper-wearers get to steer clear of those. The portapots at a concert, the pit toilets at beaches and parks…skip ’em. Use the diaper. It’s great.
3. Reduced Stress
If you really find diapers comforting, then wearing one all the time is good for your stress levels. You get a happier, more relaxed brain when you do things you like. And, unlike a lot of stress-relieving indulgences, being doesn’t require a special schedule or set-aside time, apart from changes. It’s not a hobby that you have to cram in during your free time — it’s always there.
4. Ease of Travel, Long Lines, Etc.
From time to time it’s just plain convenient to be diapered. If you’re stuck somewhere with no bathrooms for a long time, it’s not a problem. They’re not everyday situations, but when they come up, you won’t even notice them.
5. Secondary Functions
A little padding for your seat. An automatic “pad” for women on their periods. Maybe even just a bit fuller of a curve under a skirt — you can make the diaper work for you in more ways that just as a bathroom alternative. Why not?
What to Expect – The Bad News
1. People Are Going to Find Out
Random strangers in public probably won’t notice, but if you’re going the 24/7 route you need to accept that the people you spend a lot of time around are going to figure out that you wear diapers sooner or later.
That obviously includes people you live with — flatmates, family, etc. — but it’s also likely to include bosses and co-workers, and maybe even the staff at stores or restaurants you frequent.
2. Expenses
If you’ve been an intermittent diaper user before, the rate at which you go through them when you wear 24/7 might take you by surprise. Plan on five or six good, thick diapers a day at minimum if you’re using disposables, and at least two or three if you’re using cloth (possibly more, depending on thickness and quality). That adds up fast.
3. Loss of Control
For the most part this is overhyped in fantasies and erotic literature, but you do eventually get in the habit of just letting go. It may be hard to switch back after years of going diapered 24/7.
Mild urinary incontinence is more likely than complete incontinence or loss of bowel control, unless you’re actively “untraining” yourself, but expect an awkward “weaning” period if you ever do give up diapers after wearing them constantly for several years.
4. Messes and Clean-Up
Unless you’ve got a pretty active fetish for it, poop just isn’t a lot of fun. Being diapered 24/7 means dealing with poop pretty much every day. If you haven’t physically lost bowl control you can at least do it on your own terms — only messing at home and hopping straight in the shower, for example — but it’s still a moment or two of gross in your day.
5. Diaper Rash and Irritation
You can combat this with good skin care and prompt changes, but some people are still going to experience diaper rash to some degree. Powder and petroleum jelly can both be used to combat certain types of rashes. Expect to get familiar with your skin’s particular reactions, and with the treatments you need, if you switch to full-time diapering.
To Diaper 24/7 or Not to Diaper 24/7?
A minority of diaper-wearers don’t have a choice here. They’re diapered 24/7 out of necessity, and make the best of it.
For the rest, is it worthwhile? You’ll have to look over the pros and cons and make that call for yourself.
It is definitely a “lifestyle.” Things in your life will have to change, and you will end up making certain arrangements and adjustments because of your diapered state. Whether making those changes would actually be enjoyable, or are a fantasy better left for the realms of imagination…it’s up to you!
weary good and nice post 🙂 Keep up you good work.
The added benefit of diapers is less stress and you can get through the day and skip the toilet all together.
Interesting article.
Whether a person here “wants” to wear a diaper part to full time for reasons not involving true incontinence, or “needs” the protection that a diaper offers for minor to major incontinence, part to full time, is in my view as individual as there are people here. Non-incontinent may wish to be incontinent (physically,in fantasies, or other) for their own individual reasons, where truely incontinent people may wish to be able to fully control their bodily functions. Personally, I would be completely good with not needing to wear a diaper or other “protection” for the rest of my life.
What cought my eye was the statement in the article indicating that “A minority of diaper-wearers don’t have a choice here.” Judging by the asles of incontinence products at drug and grocery stores, and the number of online sources marketing the dozens of manufacturers of incontinence products, it’s obvious that there’s a huge market for these products. In my opinion, the majority of those purchasing incontinence products are truly incontinent. To take the thought to the next step, why do people frequent sites like this one? People here have an interest in diapers for a number of reasons, as very well shown in the article. In the statement that “A minority of diaper-wearers don’t have a choice HERE.”, the word “here” suggests to me that the majority on this site are truly not incontinent, which may be true. So, why do incontinent people frequent this site? For me, this site is an extremely friendly site that doesn’t “cater” to the AB segment as many seem to. This site is very respectful to all here and is apparently very well moderated. The articles are GREAT and thought provoking, as this one was for me. There are numerous psychological issues that are addressed with respect to wearing diapers. I feel “safer” here with the inability to be “flooded” by molesters and creeps that seem to frequent many related sites.
To summarize, as AGAIN, I RAMBLE… For me, being a “medium” incontinent person and able to use the toilet facilities much of the time, I’m here for the support and the occasional chuckle that I get. I’m also here to post occasionally because I feel safe by doing so, and to be able to add my thoughts on the many thought provoking subjects. Call it my theropy. Wearing a diaper 24/7 is (for me) not fun. I have worn a diaper most of my life and I wouldn’t wish incontinence on anyone. Occasionally, I need support and a hug when things get too much to deal with. I went to bed a few nights ago without changing into my night time diapers, and leaked on the bed. My husband got wet, not to mention the sheets and blanket… At 3AM, I’m changing the bed, and myself, loosing valuable sleep for the rest of the night. What a way to start the day.
Great article for those who wear by choice or need.
I agree. Great article. While I don’t wear 24/7, I do wear 7 days a week.
What prompts you to wear 7 days a week and you choose not to go 24 / 7?
I wear diapers virtually 24/7, as many of you know and everytime keep coming back to the same conclusion and that is wearing them not only helps me to feel better but also to live a better life than I. Would otherwise do without them.
I can’t see why wearing diapers is a big issue because they give me the freedom to live my life the way I want to and not be forced into something I don’t feel comfortable doing, and for me this is my only way of getting by in the day as specially at night or at work.
I will be and always have been myself and nothing will ever change that, and if I have to wear diapers for the rest of my life that’s my choice and nobody is going to tell me otherwise, I maybe stubborn but this is my way of life in other words rebell or die trying to change the world one step at a time.
As someone who went from wearing in a DL fashion on-and-off to full 24/7 due to nerve damage, I can say that things definitely do change a lot! The first thing I noticed was that skincare was a problem. My skin was dry or I had diaper rash or I had a yeast infection or there was something else going on down there. Keeping the area cleaner than my face was difficult at first – now it’s just something I do. Also, the cost went up, and my FSA had to adjust to the new need. I also needed to find what minimally worked during the day so I could wear the overnight protection I needed. Overall, at first t was disconcerting and a big hassle, but it is something I got used to over time. My wife has been great about the whole deal.
Take care,
Colin
That sound like my story. I was a DL then was in a car accident. that resulted in nerve damage. And you are right things did change a lot. Not in just what you mentioned put try and tell your date that you need to use the restroom and carry in you diaper bag.
Hey Colin. That can be a problem. I’ve always needed diapers because of iffy bladder control. I try to keep the diaper area as clean as I can possibly clean it. It’s not easy wearing diapers. I know some people who have questioned the logic behind wearing diapers. Some have asked me why I wear diapers. It’s not the wearing diapers that bother me, it’s the questioning I get from people.
The questions should never be asked but there are alot of nosey people out there.
I’ve let them go in one ear and out the other as I’ve grown up and gotten older and wiser 🙂 I’m only 40 😉
Hey Jason,
Having family and friends know about the condition is embarrassing, but after a few people find out then it’s not so bad. After a while, it’s not like I don’t care, but I am not as concerned about getting a good reaction any more. If they find out and don’t want to be a friend, then that’s cool…one less shitty friend to deal with. If a person can’t understand an embarrassing medical condition, then the chances of them understanding more complicated matters in life are slim, and I don’t want them around.
As far as questioning, I think people don’t question me simply because of my size. I’m 5′ 11″, 210# and muscular…not exactly the kind of person that gets the third degree on a regular basis. However, questions are questions…it’s when it starts to become debate club I put my foot down. Usually my ending statement is “Nerve damage is nerve damage…sometimes function comes back and sometimes it doesn’t. That’s all there is to it.” Being incontinent has made me have a thicker skin, because it is an easy condition to ridicule. However, if you look at the sheer size of the incontinence aisle in pharmacies, obviously there’s more than just a few of us that need help.
Take care,
Colin
I agree. I’m a big guy. I’m 5’5″ tall and weigh approx. 235lbs. I’d need big diapers. Most adult diapers, even their largest diapers sold in the USA wouldn’t fit me very comfortably. Do you wear disposable diapers or cloth? I’ve worn both, and I like both. It depends on the situation. If I’m out and about I may wear disposable diapers. For home use and bedtime, I’ll wear cloth diapers and plastic pants.
Well said Colin
Hi Jason,
Luckily I still have a 37″ waist so I don’t have too hard a time getting diapers that fit. I tried cloth for a while but when wet, they get cold and I don’t like that much. Plus, the wet feeling against my skin isn’t comfortable. I wear disposables almost exclusively unless I want to see the cute prints on my cloth diapers. During the day, I can usually get away with the Depend underwear. Sometimes I will wear a Tena ultra stretch brief if I am having a bad control day. While travelling, I will wear thicker diapers and PUL pants. At night, I wear the Bambino Bellissimo or very high capacity diaper with a booster pad.. Over top of that I have a fitting garment and PUL pants. I haven’t woken up to a leak in a long time 🙂
Take care,
Colin
If only my waist were still that small. Mine is around 42″. I don’t mind cloth diapers. The problem is finding a place to discreetly wash it.
That’s why I like about being diapered 24/7. I avoid the toilets and can get through the day without worrying about them. On top of that, they make great stress relief as well.
I agree. It’s the same with me.
That’s why I see diapers as just a pair of underwear or a pair of shorts. Diapers for me, are a security blanket. They let me go through the day without having to find a toilet. Great for stress relief. Even the very thick padding makes my butt look well rounded too.
I know what you mean. I just started work at my new job, and as you can imagine, although it’s a fun place, it’s pretty fast paced. Between the stress of having to keep up and the fact that my bladder can’t hold my pee for very long is a good reason for me to wear diapers.
It’s why Diapers for me, can be a way to melt the stress and let me get through the day. Even for college classes, diapers are perfect for them as well.
It’s the same for me, too. I don’t go to college. I do work, and because of how busy I am, I can’t always stop to pee, much less poop. That’s why I wear diapers.
I go to college and diapers for me are a great way to get by without having to find a toilet
I agree. Even if I knew where the toilet is, because I’m so busy doing something, I can’t always make it to the toilet when I need to pee.
That’s why for me as an Intersex person, I’m not that comfortable going to the bathroom and wearing a diaper for me, let’s me skip the bathroom entirely until I get home. Wearing a diaper relaxes me and cuts my stress down. Wearing a Diaper let’s get through the day without ever finding a toilet I can skip the toilet all together.
I can relate to that. Why spend the whole damn afternoon looking for a restroom only to find it being occupied, or closed down due to problems that develop. Something I do appreciate is a place to change my diaper when I need to.
You can do the change almost anywhere which is the nice thing.
Bathrooms are not required 😉
That’s why I lke wearing diapers. It lets me go through the whole day without having to find a bathroom. Even skip the bathroom entirely.
I agree. That’s what I like about wearing diapers. If I need to pee, why wait to use the toilet, when I can use the toilet I’m wearing. If I need to poop, why wait to use the toilet, when I can do it in my diaper. It may not be to everyone’s tastes, pooping in their diapers, but there are situations where you’ve no other alternative.
That’s why for me, wearing diapers 24/7 let’s me poop and pee anywhere without having to find a bathroom. That’s the advantage of wearing diapers. You can go whenever you want and not have to make a dash to the toilet. Why wait for a bathroom when I can use my diapers for what they are. That’s why I often think being diapered is better than wearing an underwear. You don’t have to worry about toilets and you can wear diapers as a normal pair of underwear.
I totally agree. I still wear underwear over my diapers, but only to keep them in place in case the tapes come undone. I’ve had that happen. But other than that, I use the diaper for anything that’s needed.
They have adult size onsies otherwise known as body stockings to hold diapers in place.
Jason,
That’s why I like being diapered. I don’t have to ever find a toilet ever again. I can use the diapers for what they are. I still have underwear and only use them in between diapers to air my butt.
I agree. Same here.
Being diapered for me, I don’t have to worry about bathroom breaks. I can get through the day, even poop and pee where ever I want. Even when most people run to the bathroom, I simply go in my diaper. Diapers even have that comfort and padding to make sitting easier and provide that security blanket as well.
I do the same thing. After I’ve peed or pooped in my diaper, I just change into a clean dry diaper and do it again. I have no regrets nor do I make any apologies about it.
That’s one of the benefits of being diapered. You can poop and pee with no regrets and no apologies. After loading up your diaper or leaking, you just clean up, change into a fresh one and get one with your life. Being diapered 24/7 let’s you get through the day without having to worry about finding a toilet. Having less stress and a more comfortable padding in the butt. Maybe it’s why I should have never been toilet trained and should have stayed diapered.
I agree. Although not for everyone, I like it. I like being able to use my diapers for their intended purposes.
Same here, That’s why I see diapers as just a pair of underwear and a pair of shorts/swim bottoms. Being diapered 24/7 let’s me get through the whole day minus the toliet. I can poop and pee in my diaper and not have to worry about finding a toilet. The Thick padding in the toilet, makes sitting very comfortable as well.
I so agree. I’m not an exhibitionist, I don’t show my diapers to people unless they ask. But I’m not afraid of wearing diapers. In fact, I like it.
Same here, I’m not afraid to wear my diaper. For me, I like wearing my diapers and I’m not afraid to show them as well. For me, Diapers are just something I have to wear and use.
My feelings exactly! I need to wear diapers, I might as well like it.
Which is why I don’t see diapers in a sexual way. I see Diapers in a practical way and a need. Diapers for me, Just lets me get through the day, give me the padding and lessens the stress on me. Which is why I wear diapers for their intended purpose and Poop and pee when ever I need to. I even during the warmer months wear diapers as a pair of shorts.
I agree. It’s never been sexual for me either. For some people it may be, I’ve heard of some people who like to dress up as an adult-sized baby, and while I’m not against that, it’s not for me. About the only adult baby thing for me would be diapers, plastic pants, and onesies.
That’s why diapers for me are just a pair of undewear or a pair of shorts. Their is nothing AB about diapers for me. That’s why for me, I can sometimes get away with wearing diapers under my dress and skirt. Even wear them out in the open as a pair of shorts.
I wouldn’t go that far, but I wear something over my diapers, usually a pair of form-fitting underwear and then some boxer shorts, and then I go out.
Well like me, I can sometime get away with wearing a maxi dress and a skirt under my diaper.
A maxi dress?
Yes jason, a Maxi Dress. I can sometimes get away with a Maxi dress.
What’s a “Maxi Dress”?
A maxi dress is a long dress
Ah! Ok. I’ve never worn one.
That’s why, I sometimes can get away with wearing a diaper under my dress and skirt
Do you have any photos of you wearing this maxi dress?
Yes, but I don’t post it or show it online
Ok. Sorry I asked.
That’s ok but I know I can wear a Skirt, maxi dress and a dress over my diaper and a top on
I just changed out of a wet Molicare diaper and into a dry Molicare diaper.
@jason,
How many diapers do you go through in a week or day
I don’t know how many I go through in a week. But I’d say 8 in a day. How about you?
I would say I would go through 2 to 4 diapers per day
It varies from day to day. Some days I go through 4 diapers, other days, I go through 6 diapers.
I usually can go with 2 to 4 diapers and that depends upon how much I poop and pee as well
I don’t poop in my diapers as much as I pee. I probably could, and it’d be healthier for me to do that than to just hold it in. But the odour that emanates from the diaper wouldn’t be very pleasant.
That is like me as well. I don’t poop as much and I try not to, but if I do, I will poop into my diaper and change when ever I can. I just wear them until they leak.
It’s the same with me.
That’s why for me, I don’t see anything sexual about having to wear a diaper. I simply see them as just another pair of underwear or a pair of shorts with a toilet.
Same here.
Awesome blog!
I agree. Although I don’t wear diapers 24/7, I do wear 7 days a week.
I have been wearing diapers for years of and on. I would go for a month or so wearing them to bed. Then I would stop and not wear for an extended period. I recently decided that I would try diapers 24/7. Today marks one week and I plan on going for two weeks. The first week has been interesting. While I have enjoyed wearing diapers their have been drawn backs. I will start with the positives. One I love the feeling of protection diapers gives me. Two not having to use public bathrooms. three- not having to wait in line or find a bathroom. Four- the feeling when you wet your diaper is amazing!. Now onto the negatives. One- Having to change my diaper in public and finding a place to change. Two- people asking why I’m wearing a diaper. Three- smelling like baby powder, pee, and worse poop. Four- Having to carry a diaper bag where ever I go. Five- Diaper rashes if you don’t take care of your skin. Six- Leaks. Yes I have leaks at the worse time, at work, at home, and when I’m out. Finding the right diaper is the key. Knowing the diapers capacity is key. Leaks are going to happen so I don’t really worry to much about them. So after one week of being diaper 24/7 I have made the choice to continue to wear diapers. I have slowly become less aware of when I’m peeing. I would not say I’m becoming incontinent though.
So do you disguise your diaper bag as a man purse or back pack? I scanned through all of the replies and I didn’t see too much on addressing the reality of changing in public. Carrying a “diaper bag” to work could be embarrassing because they check the contents of everyone’s bags for weapons control.
Then when you need a change out in public you’re still looking for…. and ending up in the rest room. When I wear I find it easiest to lay down for diapering but this isn’t an option in public. So the only choice is to change standing up which is more difficult unless you’re wearing pull ups.
So many other thoughts about the reality. I know it’s not impossible but it isn’t easy by any stretch. I’ve often thought about going 24/7 but these logistics are staggering to me. I guess the first thing is to get over the “embarrassing factor” for me.If I had to wear diapers 24/7 it would be different because I have no choice and would have to deal with whatever. So maybe if I convince myself that I have to wear 24/7 it could help me overcome all the fears.
Sorry…I ramble too
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I am one of those latter people who don’t have a choice, Since 2010 I have had to return to diapers 24/7 due to my disabilities, I also try to make the most of my life now that I know this is the realisation of the situation I am in for the rest of my life.
Hi Adrian! I am Edward and well I been into wearing diapers for many many years! Well since I was 9 now I am 43. Well lately I been wanting to turn to 24/7 and just do not know if I should.
I live right now with my mom and stepdad helping them out. There really is no room for storage nor a good income to support the diapers and other good stuff like the powder and cleanup supplies! Well I believe I am also afraid to tell my mom.
She knows I like wearing them and that they help keep me calm and keeps me at ease. But she is old school and just does not approve. I know I do not need her approval. I just believe out of respect to her and her house I need to let her know.
All The Best
Edward
I am diapered dependent I wear adult diapers 24/7 should I tell my mommy that I have been in diapers since I was a teen. I hide them from my mommy?
Hi,
Hope you excuse my English.
It’s obvious that there are grown up people that need and use diapers.
Great that You have made up a forum to comment on this.
Very suitable Products are avaialble for us that have the need.
I have been using diapers now 24/7 the last year and I have more than learned to live with it..
As I have read in some of the comments it seems that there is amberrasment connected to diaperuse and this is something that I would say to You:
If You feel you need it ,just use it
Very best greatings
MatsW